Dear Church, Here’s Why People Are Really Leaving You!

Following is my response to an article I read on Facebook.

Here is the article link.

Here is my response!

“This man makes some good points, though I caution against lumping everybody into the same box. Every church is different and many do not fit what he describes.
Some do.

For me, this is the bottom line. I have been a Christian for 36 years. I have been in church all of these years. I have never stopped going to church.

I have been in a number of churches which had more serious problems than the ones he described. I did not leave simply because they had problems. When I left it was because God told me to.

For me, church is more than a Sunday service. The Bible tells me that with those who consider themselves Christians, I am part with them, of body of Christ.

My reason for attending church is not for the nuances of the Sunday service. It is my desire to connect with the rest of Christ’s body. The hand cannot be isolated from the eye or the leg. Can you imagine that? Church is a vital avenue for allowing this connection to occur.

Secondly, I go to church not to be catered to by the flashy lights, bagels or coffee or the pastor’s sermon. Years ago God told me, to go to church to cater to others and not to be catered to. This changed my life. Church will be boring if one goes expecting to get the ideal sermon or great worship or the perfect lingo. But if you go there with the attitude of how can God use me to bless or pray for someone who is hurting, God will use you.

Many hurting people go to Sunday church. This is a known fact. For many years God has used me to bless someone in need. I have never failed to have a wonderful experience of being able to assist someone who has come hurting, week after week, and year after year.
I mean, one does not leave a job because things are not right? If this was the case we would not last in any job more than a few months.
So why should I walk out of church because things are not right?

The danger with our society is that if things are not going the way I want them to I’ll walk, instead of saying, God use me to bless someone today.

Or what about God use me to make a change in this church?

I never got to church to get the Word of God. If the emphasis is that my Christian experience hinges on what the pastor says, my relationship with God is shallow. My relationship with God is from day to day, not just on Sundays.

People who summarily leave churches because things are not right need to examine if their relationship with God should go deeper.
We should have an ongoing relationship with God every day.
Church is the outflow of this relationship.
It should be a time to connect with the rest of the body of Christ, and a time to give out what God has put in during the week.

I agree with every one of his reasons. Things do need to change, but let it begin with you and me. Let us be ones who say to God, use me to affect the change, and not just be another one who sees the church as a glass half empty and leaves.

I want to be a catalyst for change in church. I don’t mind getting my hands dirty in people’s lives.

Those who isolate themselves from the activity of church will grow lopsided as a hand or an eye which dwells alone.

Yes, many things in the church need to change, but we must remember that church is not a service, or a sermon, or the flashy lights. It’s a sea of people, many of them hurting. Many come to church as a last resort.

If we want to see church become better it will have to be about making people’s lives better, not the service.

God’s call is always the same. Will you be the person who will affect change and make someone one’s life better, or will it all be about you and what you can get out of church?

Leaders affect change. Followers let change affect them.”

Leader’s influence people. Followers allow people’s sins to influence and mess up their lives.

If one’s life consists in being catered to, he will never be catered to. If someone’s life consists in how I can cater to another, he will always be catered to.

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Church in Kampala Uganda


Church in Kibera, Kenya, the second largest slum in Africa

Maasia Land Kanisa

Church in Maashuru, Kenya


The former church of my good friend, Edward Nyakundi Simon

Aram Kanisa

The potato bag roof church in Aram Kenya

An Eternal Loss

 Our church model of  passivity and complacency creates Christians who never press in to discover and mature in their spiritual gifts. Our churches are full of people who are not contributing their part of bringing in the fullness of God.  Because the church is one body made of up of many members, complacent people rob others  of  the benefit of the fullness of God that should had been manifested through them. It is an eternal loss for God, His church and the world.


Baptizing in Lake Victoria, Kenya

Let’s Eat The Apple Pie During Church

Our school teachers used the illustration of an apple pie cut into eight pieces.

This would assist us in comprehending fractions.

Every piece of the sliced pie would become 1/8 of the pie.

Four pieces would be equal ½; seven pieces would be 7/8; and the eight pieces together would make the whole of the pie.

The fullness of the Lord in the Christian which results in His manifested glory is very similar.

The church is the apple pie.

If one member in a local congregation demonstrates the fullness of the Lord, the assembly will manifest 1/8 of his glory.

I know that it is an unsophisticated example, but it holds true.

If half of church’s members hold to their duty to be filled and minister the Spirit of God by their spiritual gifts, that local church will manifest 1/2 of God’s glory.

Displaying the fullness of the Lord takes the active participation of every member in a local church employing his or her spiritual gifts

Many of our church approaches are erroneous in that they encourage many to remain the passive onlooker, and few to contribute to the Holy Spirit’s ministry.

Tragically, only a small fraction of the Lord’s glory is displayed in our churches and in the world.

The church should function as a human body, since it is the body of Christ.

Our body is made-up of two hundred bones attached by tissues and ligaments.   The circulatory system makes use of the blood as it is drawn through the heart’s right chamber making its way through the lungs.

The lungs supply the blood with much needed oxygen, send it back to the heart via its left chamber, and drive into the main artery or aorta.

The aorta’s blood branches out into smaller and smaller places.

The first are arteries, designated as arterioles, which ebb into the furthest recesses of our bodies through minute capillaries.

Our immune system fends off unfriendly proteins, and infectious microorganisms, with the one two punch of antibodies. A left uppercut by the immune system makes holes in the foreign cells, and a swinging right hook swallows and digests foreign matter.

Our digestive system begins in the mouths. The food is broken into fragments by chewing and is mixed with saliva. It then goes down through the esophagus and into the stomach. The digestive process is intensified by the aggressive activity of gastric and intestinal juices. The digested nutrients are sucked into the small intestine. The remains of unassimilated foods, and waste substances from the liver, are passed into the large intestine and magnificently expelled from our bodies.

Our skin is a big living organ. It protects us from drying up, controls the loss of fluids, and shields us from harmful substances. Its sweat glands are our body’s air conditioning, the skin receptors distinguishing the levels of body temperature and pain, and finally our fat cells insulate us. (Excerpts are taken from Microsoft’s 1999 edition of the Encarta Encyclopedia.)

In our body, every member knows with accuracy what its function is, and holds itself accountable to accomplish them.

Our bodily members do it with great effectiveness. They do not take glory or attention upon themselves, and work at peak performance.

Every member of our body is active, and it is correspondingly offensive as it is defensive in its roles.

The church as Christ’s body  should operate along these same lines but does it?

The great responsibility of church leaders is not to run a one man show but to facilitate and mediate these great processes, under the tutelage of the Holy Spirit.