My Fathers Day Message


This was my Father’s Day message delivered at my church a few years back.

A FATHER AND HIS CHILDREN

Don’t try to mold your children into your image of a Christian.

Trust God and let Him mold them into what He wants for them.

A father must  forgive and  ask for forgiveness when wrong.

I have asked my kids to forgive me many times.

Your family is a team. Your family is your first ministry. God will not give you church ministries until you learn to minister to your family.

Communication is vital. Be transparent before your children.

Preach little and live your life before your family. Have a good time with them.

Support the dreams of your children. Be available for their special occasions.

Your children are not particularly called to follow our dreams.

Be a servant to your children.

Let your children know that God and His will, comes first.  The blessing upon a family is proportional to putting God first.

A father who puts his family above God’s will run into problems. This is when he makes his family an idol. This is a huge problem in the church

Put your family second after God, but always before job, church, and ministry.

Let your children know that even in their very worst sin you  love them, and will not reject them

It’s diabolic when family members cut each other off for any reason, including money or politics.

Welcome your kids to stay and live at home as long as they want to, even if it’s till marriage

Even when married let them know that this is their home.

If so, they will never seek a home somewhere else.

Let your kids know that you are their best friend. Children who know their parents to best friends will never look for wrong friends.

Let them share all things that they do, even the very worst and let them know that they will never be rejected. Then they will not keep secrets from you or do harmful  things in  wrong places.

If a child knows that they can come to you with anything and everything he won’t be tempted to do things in the company of evil men.

A FATHER AND HIS WORLD

Pr 29:25  The fear of man bringeth a snare, but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe.

Be free from the fear of man but always fear God.

Not obeying God the first time is disobedience.

Be willing to lose your earthly reputation as a man pleaser. Become a fool for Christ.

Ga 1:10  For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I yet sought to please men, I should not be the servant of Christ.

A father is not a people please but a God pleaser.

A father is not politically correct but God correct. He is a world changer and a revivalist.

A father does not compromise the Word of God under any circumstance.

2Ti 2:15  Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

A father is a student of the Word  and disciple of Jesus Christ. The lack of a foundation God’s word in the church is her greatest problem.

If your Bible studies are limited to a smart phone you will never be free.

A father is at the minimum a faithful  tither. He who does not tithe will run into financial problems.

A FATHER AND HIS SPIRITUAL CHILDREN

Ac 1:24  And they prayed and said, “Thou, Lord, who knowest the hearts ( the heart knower of all) of all men, show us which of these two Thou hast chosen,

A father is not religious but  a listener and knower of all hearts.

He must embrace and accept unconditionally.

He does not embrace the sin, but the sinner.

He loves unconditionally and accepts unconditionally. That is not  acceptance of the sin but of the person.

He is authentic, and is not scared to make mistakes for he knows that he will  correct them.

Jas 1:19   Therefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;

A father is a good listener. He must learn to speak less than what he listens.

Ps 16:11 Thou wilt show me the path of life; in Thy presence is fullness of joy; at Thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.

Transparency is  a sign of wholeness. Be real to yourself. Let people know you for who you are. A father is on his way to wholeness.

Nothing brings wholeness quicker than knowing the Word of God and spending time in God’s presence.

The opposite of pain is laughter and joy. The presence of Jesus is the pinnacle of laughter, pleasure and joy. There is point in Jesus where pain caused by sin and brokenness leaves. This should be the goals of fathers.

A father does not legislate Biblical morality to the sinner but draws people to Christ by demonstrating the Father’s love .

A father can deal with a variety of  people and demonstrate God’s love to them.

A father does not become easily offended. He rises above the offenses of others and never cuts off anyone because of sin.  Even when hurt by another he will not shut them out.  He will be there in the midst of his own hurt.

A father must focus on younger generations. There is a responsibility to pass the baton.

You and I will die. We must make disciples of those behind . This is part of the legacy of a father.

2Ti 4:2  preach the Word. Be instant in season and out of season. Reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.

A father lovingly confronts, rebukes and reproves with all authority.

The love of God is not icky sweet and sugary.

A FATHER AS A LEADER

God is looking for fathers who will be leaders.

I am sick of seeing men in  church whose wives have to lead  and pull them up by their bootstraps. This is demonic and is an attack on the family.

Every father should forge his own way with the Lord. Don’t be as follower. Blaze your own trail. Make a difference, leave a legacy.

You have something great to give. Don’t copy somebody else’s message.

Php 3:12  It is not as though I had already attained it, nor were already perfect; but I follow after, that I may sieze hold of that for which Christ Jesus also seized hold of me.

Eph 5:16  Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

Be a doer. Don’t waste time. Redeem the time because the days are evil.

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TheTeachers Notes: On My Father’s Day Message to Fathers and Fathers To Be


MY HISTORY AS  A FATHER

God broke me when I recognized that I wanted my kids to be like me as a Christian and minister like me.

Much of what I did in my relationships with them was in expectation of wanting them to follow my footsteps.

I had a selfishly religious spirit with an angry edge. I had a holier than thou attitude especially with TV.

Fear will cause you to react in anger. Many times I reacted to my children with anger because I feared that they were not following in the footsteps of what I thought a Christian should be like. I had an angry fearful edge towards them.

Don’t try to mold your children into your image of a Christian.

Trust God and let Him mold them into what He wants for them.

 

A FATHER AND HIS CHILDREN

A father must learn to quickly forgive and to quickly ask for forgiveness when wrong.

This is a huge lesson that I learned with my children.

I have asked my kids to forgive me many times.

Forgiveness is not saying that you are sorry. It goes deeper than. A father must learn to ask for forgiveness from his children when wrong.

Your family is always a team. Your family is your first ministry. God will not give you a ministry in the church until you have adequately learned to minister to your family.

Communication is essential. Be transparent and honest before your children.

Preach little and live your life before them. Have a good time with your family.

Support the individual dreams of my children. Be there for them on their special occasions.

Your children are not called to follow our dreams unless it’s something that God put in their hearts.

Be a servant to your children.

Always let your children know that God and His will,  always come first.  The blessing upon a family will be proportional to its obedience to God by putting Him first.

A father who puts his family above God’s will run into problems. This is when a father makes his family into an idol.

Put your family second after God, but always before your job, church and ministry.

Let your children know that even in their very worst sin you will love them, never reject and be there for them.

It’s demonic when family members cut each other off for a host of reasons.

Welcome your kids to stay and live at home as long as they want to, that is until they get married.

Let them always feel welcomed to stay. Even when married let them know that this is their home.

If so, they will never want to seek a home somewhere else.

Let your kids know that you are their best friend. Children who know that their parents are their best friends will never look for the wrong friends elsewhere.

Let them know that they can share with you all things that they do, even the bad, the good and the ugly, and that they will never be rejected for them. If they know this, they will not keep secrets from you and do these secretive things in the wrong places.

If a child knows that they can come to you with everything good, bad and ugly, they won’t be tempted to do things in darkness and in the company of evil men.

 

A FATHER AND HIS WORLD

Pr 29:25  The fear of man bringeth a snare, but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe.

Become free from the fear of men but always fear God.

Not obeying God the first time is disobedience.

Be willing to lose your earthly reputation as a man pleaser. Become a fool for Christ.

Ga 1:10  For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I yet sought to please men, I should not be the servant of Christ.

A father is not a people please but a God pleaser. By that I mean that He will put God first.

A father is not politically correct but God correct. He is a world changer and a revivalist.

A father does not compromise the word of God under any circumstance.

2Ti 2:15  Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

A father must be a student of the Word of God, and disciple of Jesus Christ. The lack of a foundation of the Word of God in the church is its greatest problem.

If your Bible studies are limited to a Bible program on a smart phone you will never be free.

A father is at the very least a tither. He who does not tithe to the Lord will sooner or later run into financial problems.

I have always tithed to God on my gross and have never run into financial problems since 1979.  Instill that in your children and others.

 

A FATHER AND HIS SPIRITUAL CHILDREN

A Father is A Heart Knower

Ac 1:24  And they prayed and said, “Thou, Lord, who knowest the hearts ( the heart knower of all) of all men, show us which of these two Thou hast chosen,

A father is not religious but rather a listener and knower of all hearts.

He must embrace and accept unconditionally.

He does not embrace the sin, but the sinner.

He loves unconditionally and accepts unconditionally. That is not an acceptance of the sin but of the person.

A father is not religious but genuine.

He is authentic, and is not scared to make mistakes if he knows that he is willing to correct them.

Jas 1:19   Therefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;

A father is a good listener. He can learn to speak less than he listens.

Ps 16:11 Thou wilt show me the path of life; in Thy presence is fullness of joy; at Thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.

Transparency and realness to you who you are is a sign of wholeness. Be real to yourself. Let people know you for who you are. A father is on his way to wholeness.

Nothing brings wholeness faster than knowing what the Word of God says and the presence of God.

The opposite of pain is laughter and joy. The presence of Jesus is the pinnacle of laughter, pleasure and joy. Pain must dissolve where there is persistent laughter and joy. There is point in Jesus where every trace of pain caused by sin and brokenness departs. This should be the goals of fathers.

A father does not legislate Biblical morality to the sinner but draws people to Christ by demonstrating the Father’s love to them.

A father is ready to deal with a host of different people and show the fathers love to them.

A father who is free and whole does not become easily offended.

He rises above the offenses of others and never cuts off anyone because of their sin.  Even when hurt by another he will not shut them out.  He will be there for them in the midst of hurt.

A father must have a focus on the younger generations.

There is a responsibility to pass the baton.  There is a responsibility to disciple and mentor.

You and I will die. We must make disciples of those behind us. This is part of the legacy of a father.

2Ti 4:2  preach the Word. Be instant in season and out of season. Reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.

A real father should be able to lovingly confront, and rebuke and reprove with all authority in love.

The love of God many times is not icky sweet and sugary.

Be able to lovingly confront, rebuke and reprove when sin is present.

 

A FATHER AS A LEADER

God is looking for fathers who will be leaders.

I am tired of seeing men in the church whose wives have to lead them, and pull them up by their bootstraps.

This is demonic and tragic and is an attack on the family.

Every father should forge his own way with the Lord. Don’t be as follower. Blaze your own trail.

You have something great to give. Don’t copy somebody else’s message.

Make a difference, leave a legacy.

Php 3:12  It is not as though I had already attained it, nor were already perfect; but I follow after, that I may sieze hold of that for which Christ Jesus also seized hold of me.

Eph 5:16  Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

Be a doer. Don’t waste time. Redeem the time because the days are evil.

A Father’s Day Message: “The World Cries Out For Fathers”


Pastor Jose Alvarez, assistant pastor at Doral Vineyard, will share a Father’s Day message for all fathers and fathers to be;  “The World Cries out for Fathers,” at Doral Vineyard Church.

A once severe stutterer, university drop out, a pornography, pot and alcohol addict, and overwhelmed with monumental insecurities, the last thing on Jose’s mind was the prospect of getting married and much less of becoming a father.

In 1979 as an agnostic, Jose had an encounter with the unknown God who led him to His Son, Jesus Christ.

Jose’s freedom and deliverance begun there.

Jose and his wife Mary tied the knot in 1988 and were blessed with four wonderful children, Lexy, Hannah, Sarah and Timmy.

As a father, Jose was  bound  with a selfish religious spirit spiced with  an “angry edge” towards his kids.

He had spent years attempting to mold them into his image of what a Christian should look like.

In 2009 near to the Christmas holidays,  God used the ministries of Ed Tandy McGlasson, and Jack Frost to show the bitterness and fear in Jose’s heart which had limited him from representing the father heart of God to his children.

Jose’s broke in repentance and tears. He asked each of his children to forgive him.

That Christmas Jose and Mary prayed  a father’s and mother’s blessing upon their kids, releasing them into adult hood and into the discovery of  their own path to God.

Jose today is dedicated to supporting the dreams of his children and not expecting them to mold to his.

Jose recognized that his journey to fatherhood was to be taken out of his own home and into the globe.

The world’s crying need is for genuine fathers and mothers.

Today’s generations are seeking out the unconditional love and unconditional acceptance of authentic fathers.

Church meetings and the message of “ Jesus loves you” are no longer enough.

People are looking to those who “walk the talk.”

To listen, to understand, to lovingly face the sin that hinders, to embrace another’s dream,  to challenge others to go beyond themselves, and to pass the baton to the next generation, are all attributes of a good father.

Pastor Jose will not only communicate the tools for being a father who accurately represents God in his own home, but today’s urgent call for fathers to all peoples, nations, and generations, regardless of beliefs or values.

Doral Vineyard Church is located at

8000 NW 25 Street

Doral, Florida 33122

Service time will be  11:00 AM on Sunday, June 17th, 2012.

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