This was my Father’s Day message delivered at my church a few years back.
A FATHER AND HIS CHILDREN
Don’t try to mold your children into your image of a Christian.
Trust God and let Him mold them into what He wants for them.
A father must forgive and ask for forgiveness when wrong.
I have asked my kids to forgive me many times.
Your family is a team. Your family is your first ministry. God will not give you church ministries until you learn to minister to your family.
Communication is vital. Be transparent before your children.
Preach little and live your life before your family. Have a good time with them.
Support the dreams of your children. Be available for their special occasions.
Your children are not particularly called to follow our dreams.
Be a servant to your children.
Let your children know that God and His will, comes first. The blessing upon a family is proportional to putting God first.
A father who puts his family above God’s will run into problems. This is when he makes his family an idol. This is a huge problem in the church
Put your family second after God, but always before job, church, and ministry.
Let your children know that even in their very worst sin you love them, and will not reject them
It’s diabolic when family members cut each other off for any reason, including money or politics.
Welcome your kids to stay and live at home as long as they want to, even if it’s till marriage
Even when married let them know that this is their home.
If so, they will never seek a home somewhere else.
Let your kids know that you are their best friend. Children who know their parents to best friends will never look for wrong friends.
Let them share all things that they do, even the very worst and let them know that they will never be rejected. Then they will not keep secrets from you or do harmful things in wrong places.
If a child knows that they can come to you with anything and everything he won’t be tempted to do things in the company of evil men.
A FATHER AND HIS WORLD
Pr 29:25 The fear of man bringeth a snare, but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe.
Be free from the fear of man but always fear God.
Not obeying God the first time is disobedience.
Be willing to lose your earthly reputation as a man pleaser. Become a fool for Christ.
Ga 1:10 For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I yet sought to please men, I should not be the servant of Christ.
A father is not a people please but a God pleaser.
A father is not politically correct but God correct. He is a world changer and a revivalist.
A father does not compromise the Word of God under any circumstance.
2Ti 2:15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
A father is a student of the Word and disciple of Jesus Christ. The lack of a foundation God’s word in the church is her greatest problem.
If your Bible studies are limited to a smart phone you will never be free.
A father is at the minimum a faithful tither. He who does not tithe will run into financial problems.
A FATHER AND HIS SPIRITUAL CHILDREN
Ac 1:24 And they prayed and said, “Thou, Lord, who knowest the hearts ( the heart knower of all) of all men, show us which of these two Thou hast chosen,
A father is not religious but a listener and knower of all hearts.
He must embrace and accept unconditionally.
He does not embrace the sin, but the sinner.
He loves unconditionally and accepts unconditionally. That is not acceptance of the sin but of the person.
He is authentic, and is not scared to make mistakes for he knows that he will correct them.
Jas 1:19 Therefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;
A father is a good listener. He must learn to speak less than what he listens.
Ps 16:11 Thou wilt show me the path of life; in Thy presence is fullness of joy; at Thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.
Transparency is a sign of wholeness. Be real to yourself. Let people know you for who you are. A father is on his way to wholeness.
Nothing brings wholeness quicker than knowing the Word of God and spending time in God’s presence.
The opposite of pain is laughter and joy. The presence of Jesus is the pinnacle of laughter, pleasure and joy. There is point in Jesus where pain caused by sin and brokenness leaves. This should be the goals of fathers.
A father does not legislate Biblical morality to the sinner but draws people to Christ by demonstrating the Father’s love .
A father can deal with a variety of people and demonstrate God’s love to them.
A father does not become easily offended. He rises above the offenses of others and never cuts off anyone because of sin. Even when hurt by another he will not shut them out. He will be there in the midst of his own hurt.
A father must focus on younger generations. There is a responsibility to pass the baton.
You and I will die. We must make disciples of those behind . This is part of the legacy of a father.
2Ti 4:2 preach the Word. Be instant in season and out of season. Reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.
A father lovingly confronts, rebukes and reproves with all authority.
The love of God is not icky sweet and sugary.
A FATHER AS A LEADER
God is looking for fathers who will be leaders.
I am sick of seeing men in church whose wives have to lead and pull them up by their bootstraps. This is demonic and is an attack on the family.
Every father should forge his own way with the Lord. Don’t be as follower. Blaze your own trail. Make a difference, leave a legacy.
You have something great to give. Don’t copy somebody else’s message.
Php 3:12 It is not as though I had already attained it, nor were already perfect; but I follow after, that I may sieze hold of that for which Christ Jesus also seized hold of me.
Eph 5:16 Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
Be a doer. Don’t waste time. Redeem the time because the days are evil.